Mindset is the Driver

We are all born with a purpose to serve something greater than ourselves, to help others and to make a difference.

If you fixate on what everyone else is doing you will slow down your progress, or get stuck in a ditch of despair.

The key to progress is to focus on your own path and to go at your own speed.

The good news is that if you keep moving forward with momentum, you will eventually reach your destination.

TRANSCRIPT

Welcome to the unstick, your mind podcast on Mimika TV, get ready to get unstuck align with your true purpose and unlock your God given potential. Well, I, I have a saying that says business problems are personal problems in disguise. So if you haven’t dealt with the junk in your trunk, you’re eventually gonna wear yourself down until you either full get stuck on the side of the road or crash and bird, which hopefully today we can help you avoid. So what we can share today, some tools and actionable bits. So maybe some aha moments of like, maybe this is something I can avoid. So hopefully we can catch them before it’s it gets to that really I’ve been an entrepreneur at heart. Since I was a child, my dad was an entrepreneur. They had a business from home. And to me, that’s all I knew was this is how you do life, always hustle, hustle, hustle, sales, and our house was a train train station, people going in and out.
So for me, that’s just kind of the lifestyle and the environment that I was raised in thinking that high pressured high paced life is, is the way life is right. Cause we don’t know what we don’t know. And especially when we are kids, we establish this thought process of, oh, that’s what truth is. But we get challenged and we grow and we learn things, but I always say I was just a perfect storm brewing. And the thing is I’m one of those, like who’s willing to admit, recovering perfectionist piece of people, pleaser like, hello. I wanna, do the things and do all the things and have my fingers. And every pie you can tell, I talk at a hundred miles an hour. So everything’s so for me, it was like, I only have two gears full blast or full stop.
When eventually you realize it’s unsustainable, this pace, this living in adrenaline, this go, go go. The rat race, running, running, running, going from one thing to another. I mean, in the moment it feels good when you’re busy and you’re doing stuff. And adrenaline, adrenaline is kind of what I call this. It’s like your body’s own numbing agent. You don’t realize the damage it’s doing while you’re working in it, because everything feels good. You feel like you can do everything, but eventually it comes a point where your body’s gonna crash and burn. And it’s like I need to recover for some of us. It takes a little while to see the signs. Like I was in denial for way too long. And through that whole process, it’s like, I never gave myself a chance to really breathe. It’s okay when you’re 20 and you can like burn the midnight oil every night.
But no, when you get older, you start realizing this is not gonna cut it. This is a little dangerous. So there comes a point in our lives when we realize that the way we are living or how are we thinking about life is not serving us. And in some cases, and in my case, I really hit the wall and headed bad. I had what I call the trifecta effect. I had a business launch that tanked and ended up thousands of dollars in debt. I had a child in crisis, dealing with mental health issues and had to intervene. And all of those stress stresses of dealing with something that you can’t control. And then within a very short period, like within about six weeks later, my mother-in-law passed away from cancer. For me, it was like I had been carrying and carrying and carrying and this stress and anxiety.
And eventually my body just broke down. I had breakdown and burned out where I literally couldn’t get out of bed. Like I’ve never experienced that physical grief where your body aches and you feel there’s all ugly snot cry where you literally like, can’t hold a conversation cuz you are dry heaving. And it was just not pretty. But what I’d realized is I got to a stage where I just literally couldn’t do it anymore. So I shut my business down. I’d realized I needed time to heal. I needed time to really stop and think, okay, what am I doing? And, and I started to ask the questions like, why do I think about this? And well, how it works with God is he gives us the test and then we get the lesson, not the lesson and the test. And that’s the thing is we will keep taking that test until we learn the lesson.
I had never really allowed myself to stop and to think about what I’m thinking about to me, I always felt like a victim of circumstance. Like, oh, well, this things happened to me because of whatever I was raised or, oh, this, I’m just gonna keep going and just believing what I felt was real as truth, but is it necessarily truth? Cuz there’s a difference between what feels real and what is actually true. And we, our job is to discover the difference between what’s truth and lies in this journey called life and then to decide what we choose to believe. So, yeah, I, after that process, I, I realized I had to take care of me and I went through, I had some therapy and then sought out coaching and that was transformative for me.
And I’d realize the most important work I can do is to help others, either avoid going through what I did or heal from that or move forward to where they’re living the life they want to live. They’re living in purpose. They feel aligned with their God given purpose. Cuz I truly believe a woman of faith that we are born for a reason and for a season and by design. And if we can tap into that and realize and align our mind with our hearts and our intuition spirit, everything else falls in place. So I think this is one of the most underrated aspects, whether you’re a coach, an entrepreneur a professional, whatever you do, this is going to drive. It’s like, it’s the driver behind the wheel of your machine. And if your machine is running at half pace and you’re running, you’re running out of gas or the head gasket’s about to blow, we definitely need to step aside and say time to go to the garage and do a little bit of work under the hood because when you can come back refreshed, you’ve reset, you can then really drive the race mindset really is.
I like to talk, talk about it in terms of being the, his, the two year old, having a, his fit in your brain. So I, I, we have two parts to our brain that I like to associate with in mindset called the, the parent and the child. Now the child is the two year old who has the Heay. Who’s like, I want this and oh my gosh, oh, this guy’s falling. He has a freak out. But to be the parent and to tap into the parent takes a bit of work so we can understand, we don’t have to believe every thought that pops in our head, not everything that I think is true and it should be challenged. And just because my feelings feel like this doesn’t necessarily mean it’s, it’s the truth of the circumstance. And then, and when you get, you get into that parental way of thinking, you feel like you’re in control.
Part of what I love to do and teach people is to this process. So my, my brain is called unstick your mind. I have a coaching program and the book coming out, I still haven’t finished writing it, but it’s on the way. It it’s really it’s taking these, these concepts of what does perseverance look like? What is purpose really mean? And really diving into these different aspects of how do you adjust your way of thinking in order to be more resilient, to not get phased by the stresses of the world. How do I approach a problem and think about it logically without getting my, my emotions and the two year old, have a S of it. So I’m like, how can we teach you to do that? So I’m really excited about sharing this content with people and it’s really life transformative, because you think about the, if you think about what you’re thinking about, you can realize that you are on more control and you have more agency of your life than you think you do this.
Isn’t the, it isn’t the, the economy, it isn’t the government, it isn’t the weather. It isn’t other people it’s ourselves. Cuz one, when we take a hundred percent responsibility for a hundred percent of our results, we realize that we are in the driver’s seat. We can make those choices. Cuz I always say, there’s one thing God will not mess with. And that’s your free will. He could easily, like I always say, why don’t you just come down and sort the world out? And he says, that’s not how it works, cuz I want you to choose. I want you to choose the right path. I want you to choose to want to be, well, I want you to choose a different way because once you are aware of something, you can work on it. But when you’re in denial streets, oh no, it, it, the whole world passes you by.
So this is why I think, and having been an entrepreneur for so many new years and realizing I look back at those business problems, they were the same patterns showing up again and again and again, because of the way my, I had stinking thinking, I wasn’t had the right, uh self-concept I wasn’t aligned with the right thing. I was chasing every little squirrel and every new fad and thinking well, so and so made money. Do that truly. I should do that too. Or I need to learn that thing. And it gets us into this sort of negative space where we are not really tuned into our actual gifts because just like if you arrive, you’re driving a race on a track, you have to stay in your lane and we get so confused and so worried about what everybody else is doing.
Whether it’s driving a car or riding a horse, honey, you ain’t gonna go everywhere anywhere. If you’re watching what everybody else is doing. But if you can say slowly focused on your mission, your calling your path, your gifts, your talents, what you are mean to do. And really what it is is I say to people, we need to slow you down to speed you up. Now I know for us, go getters out there, like say what, what slow me down? Like what rest? What is that? But there is method to this. There is a reason for this cuz I studied a lot about the brain and how the brain works and how we need to apply principles through practice and repetition to make new habits. New neural pathways get rid of an old habit is, takes actually more than 90 days. Not just the 21 days we’ve been told. So that’s why mindset is key. Are you ready to change your brain to change your life? Discover how to break limiting beliefs, stop self sabotage and unlock your full potential by rewiring your brain using neuroscience coaching and faith-based principles. Come join my coaching program. Unstick your mind today.

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