How to Scientifically Take Control of your Life

How to Scientifically Take Control of your Life

Are you feeling stuck in life and uncertain about what steps to take to improve your situation? Do you want to be more in control of your life and achieve your dreams? This video is packed with scientifically-proven strategies that will help you take control of your life and transform it for the better.

Our lives are shaped by the decisions we make and the actions we take. However, many of us struggle to take control of our lives and make meaningful changes because we lack the knowledge, skills, and tools needed to do so. This video aims to bridge that gap by providing you with practical and evidence-based advice on how to take control of your life and achieve your goals.

We dive into various scientific principles that can help you take control of your life, such as setting SMART goals, developing a growth mindset, and practicing self-care. We’ll also cover the latest research on habit formation, willpower, and motivation, and provide actionable tips for making lasting changes in your life.

Whether you want to improve your health, advance in your career, or enhance your relationships, this video has something for you. It’s designed to help you gain the knowledge, skills, and motivation you need to take control of your life and achieve your full potential.

So, if you’re ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth, hit that play button, and let’s start taking control of your life today.

TRANSCRIPT

You can change your mindset and you can change your life by changing your mind. And you don’t have to live with the brain that you have. You can, through the science of neuroplasticity, retrain your brain. If you’re 30 years and over, you for sure are living mostly out of habits and ways, or patterns, that you’ve developed over the years. You can through this retraining, but intentional processes. And just being aware. I always say the number one thing is awareness. For me, I didn’t want to admit that there was a problem. I didn’t want to look at the issues. I wanted to just brush them under the carpet and pretend they’d all be fine tomorrow.

The Weeds

They will eventually, like weeds, find their way to really chuck out the life in you if you do not weed them out when they start. Mindset first of all is coming to the realization that my mind and my brain is the most important organ in my body. My thoughts drive my actions. I don’t have to live by emotions, because our emotions are energy in motion. They go through our bodies. They are there to help us understand and take stock of what our experiences are in our life. But so many of us are ruled by emotions. It’s like the picture I like to describe to my client is, we have two parts, two personalities in our brain. We have the mom who’s in control and who makes the decisions. And we have the baby. And the baby or the toddler likes to have a hissy fit now and again. She doesn’t like her pacifier taken away. She doesn’t like the Ben and Jerry’s ice-cream taken away from her when she’s having a meltdown. She sometimes will have a screaming match and want things her away.

Baby vs Adult Brain

But as the adult in our brain, we have to say, “Okay honey, I know you’re having a meltdown. This doesn’t feel great. You feel embarrassed because of whatever so-and-so did or whatever happened. It doesn’t feel good, but it’s okay. This feeling will pass. You have control to make the decision. Now you either sit in the corner and cry, or you pull yourself together.” I have a saying sometimes and my clients think first, they’re like, “What?” And I’ll explain the concept a little deeper, but I say sometimes you’ve got to slap that baby brain, because she will misbehave. She will tell you, “I want to have it my way,” and sometimes you’ve got to put your foot down and say, “No, I understand that you’re feeling this way but that is not true.” Acknowledging and being aware of your thoughts and feelings is good, but I do not have to be ruled by them.

Awareness

This takes practice. It starts with awareness of not allowing every little thought to come through your mind and believing it’s true. Let’s take for example anxiety. I can rant about this, I tell you, now you got me started. Everybody wants to own the anxiety like it’s a badge. “Oh, my anxiety is this, so I can’t do this.” “Oh, my anxiety…” Why on earth do we to give anxiety the microphone in our life?

Labeling

In the mental health field, this kind of labeling was never intended to be in the public. It was just for mental health practitioners to categorize how to treat their clients or their patients. The fact that people are owning depression, and owning anxiety, and owning their diagnoses as if it’s their identity, is very dangerous. What happens when you think that you are your anxiety? You don’t think you can change. This is a dangerous place to be because you never want to seek help to change. You never think you can change and you never do.

Circumstances

Here’s the truth, you are not a product of your experiences or your circumstances. You don’t have to allow your past to stop you from living. I’ve worked with people who’ve had very traumatic experiences, they have gone through abuse, and they learned how to rewire their brains. By changing their thinking by being intentional about their thoughts, and what they want out of life, they were able to take the steps to change. Making conscious and intentional decisions is new habit formation.

Habits

If you have a habit of doing something, first of all, you need to notice it’s a habit, but know that you can retrain your mind. I take my clients through a training process of awareness, experience, applying new habits, and then practing the new habits. It took a hot minute to get you into this mess, so I can guarantee it’ll take you a few weeks or a few months to get moving. I say give yourself at least 90 days to get you unstuck so you start moving forward.

Possibility

The good news is it’s possible. This narrative, we’ve all been living under is ridiculous. It’s just been this fear-based push of information. Now we know that every day someone is dying. It’s a horrible thing to say, but its a reality of life and it happens all the time. What has happened in the last two years in the media is especially destructive. We have been pushed this narrative and this fear-based message has us all so focused on the negativity. that is what has really fueled a lot of anxiety is how we are looking at the negative things. It’s not to say we are not affected by it. I personally have gone through COVID twice. The first time I almost ended up in hospital because I had pneumonia.  I know how awful that is. I’ve known people, and lost people that I’ve known personally who died from it. I’m not putting it down in any way, but what I’m saying is that we don’t have to constantly fueled by fear. We are being manipulated into believing this lie of this narrative that you have to live in fear because that is not true.

Choice

You get to choose what you see, what you listen to, and what your inputs are. It’s so important that we go on what I call a ‘negativity fast’. We need to fast from the negative news. We need to decide it’s just like a diet. If you’re going to eat junk food and sugar all the time, you’re not going to feel good. You’re going to feel terrible. We need to go on a negativity diet where we can say, “I’m only going to consume the positive thing.” Ignorance is bliss. If you can stay in that zone of “I’m only going to give myself, and my body, and my brain, and my spirit, and my soul, the right input and the positivity, that’s how I’m going to grow and get out of this situation.” The good news is it can be done if you are willing and able to make the decision, to first of all be aware that there’s a problem, and then take action to make it make a change.

Vision

God gives me ideas in pictures,  I have these prophetic type visions, He talks to me like movies. He showed me this vision and said, “You know what it’s like dealing with you right now? It’s like you have given me permission to be in the driver’s seat of your life, but you are the worst backseat driver I have ever come across! You are giving me so much attitude.” You’re like, ‘The GPS says we should go here. Maybe we should take this detour.'” And He is like, “No, I know where we are going.'” And I’m like, “Are you sure? Oh, hang on. Maybe we should stop here. Ooh, look what Suzie’s doing over there. Maybe we should go get a car like hers.” And He’s like, “Will you be quiet? Be quiet and enjoy the ride. Stick your head out the window. Feeling the breeze. Why are you making this so difficult?'”

Back Seat Driver

So I realized I had to take my sticky fingers off the driver’s seat and off the steering wheel. As you can tell, I talk very fast, because I’m thinking at a hundred miles an hour. But what I’ve realized is that I was missing out. I was going so fast, trying to get through the next thing and the next thing, that even when I got there, I wasn’t happy and satisfied. I’d realized I better just sit in the backseat and enjoy the ride, and just be happy for where I’m at for that moment. Tomorrow will bring its own challenges. Just like the Bible says, “Just eat, drink, and be merry and show love and walk in kindness and help others.” We all have that in us, and we all have unique gifts that we are called to bring to the world. It’s up to us to decide how we use them. We have a choice today to either be a victim, or a victor. It really is that simple. You get to choose.