Here is the good news. You can learn how to rewire your brain because you don’t have to have the brain you were born with!
Science is finally catching up and confirming what the Bible has said all along, that we are to renew our minds daily.
You can actually change your brain, and it all comes down to the concept of neuroplasticity.
Learn how to rewire your brain on today’s podcast.
How to Rewire your Brain
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Well, the concept of rewiring your brain is really gets me excited because the good news is that you don’t have to have the brain you were born with.
You can actually change your brain, and this all comes down to neuroplasticity. And as we know now, our science is finally catching. With what I feel the Bible’s talked about in, in, in terms of like rewiring and renewing your mind, like, how do you think new, intentional thoughts every day? And what I love about this, I’m actually going through this training program of becoming a brain health coach with the, the amen university.
They’ve actually looked at brain scans of how behavior and choices actually affects the brain. So for this new concept for you, let me introduce you to the idea of that. Your brain is malleable that even for people who’ve had traumatic brain injuries are able to reformat and rewire their brain through new training.
The best way that I analyze this is that if you go to the gym, right, you wanna lose weight or you wanna build muscle. At first getting started is the hardest part. Right? And it’s like getting your strength up and your stamina, you have to keep it up. Like you being intentional, showing up every day, like my husband’s a runner and he loves, getting started wasn’t so much, so much fun.
But once he had got into that stage that he switched into craving running. It’s like his brain and his body was like, I need to go run. I need to go run. And he, and if he didn’t, he’d be like driving me crazy. And I’d like, go get your shoes and go like, And it was like your, you eventually switch into where your, your brain and your body crave that new thing.
And it’s almost like the same way that addictions work. Right. We find something that interests us or like kids on, on cell phones. You’re getting the dopamine hit every time you, you stimulate your brain. And we get, we have the hormones, which is the serotonin and the dopamine. But if we think about what do we do that constantly keeps us plugged into whether it’s being addicted to exercise or drink or TV or whatever insert your vice.
If you think if your brain and your body can get trained into craving something, that’s negative. This the opposite is true. You can train your brain and your body to get addicted to something that’s. And what this means is that by intentionally taking steps and rewiring and, and the best way I describe it is cuz I come from a, a classically trained ballet dancing background and I do competitive figure skating.
The way you learn new things is to redo and practice and repeat and repeat and repeat. So if you want to rewire your brain, first of all, you have to know that it’s possible and you have to decide what you want, the new habit to. And then you need to put in practices that support that new habit, and you need to keep repeating and repeating and repeating until it becomes muscle memory.
And of course, that is the difference between being proactive and reactive. A lot of people stay in reactive mode like, oh my gosh, today’s gonna be a bad day. Oh, the way that’s terrible. They’ve already decided their day is gonna be bad. And then what happens. You attract what you think about.
So if you’ve decided it’s gonna be a bad day, all of a sudden there’s traffic, and then this happens and then confirmation BI sit in and like, oh, you see, I told you it’s gonna be a terrible day because you already decided, so what if we did the opposite? What if we decided, and this goes beyond just thinking positively, because thinking positively isn’t enough, you have to accompany it with action.
So if say you’re waking up in the morning, you hit the, hit the alarm clock. Or if you can decide in those few seconds of waking up, I call it the first 10, first, 10 seconds. You make the decisions for your day as you waking up, what do you want your day to look like? So how are, what are the choices you’re gonna.
To support your day to line up with your choice. So if you want the day to go well and you wanna have time for everything, it means you need to make decisions. So if you don’t wanna be late for your meeting at the office, it means not sleeping in front another five minutes, making that intentional choice now to take make a decision so that you can then re the reward later.
So if we are again, constantly questioning our choices and saying, if I do this, it’s gonna end up here. But if I do that, It’s going to end me up at a different place. It’s like degrees. If you think about whether you are on a ship liner, like a ship liner is really hard to move really fast. It’s not as agile as say, if you were going down the river on a canoe, you can kind of move very quickly.
But if you’re in a ship liner and you carrying a lot of baggage, which I like to call the junk in your trunk from your past. And you’ve lo used to going at this pace. If you want to change you, you can by small degrees. So one little degree today doesn’t seem like a lot, right? You think, well, I’m not losing the weight.
Why do I not feel like I’m like getting further ahead, but you need to stay the course because in a few weeks or months or years, you eventually, by that one degree, you are gonna go end up in a completely different direction because of that, in that choice, you made to make one degree. And this is where I think, understanding that your brain needs that sense of accomplishment.
Which is why we need to celebrate the wins. Like we’ve forgotten how to celebrate and bring a closure to things because we’ve got used to things, never-ending. The social media never switches off. We don’t have a, the end, games don’t go game over. They like just continue roll into the next, the days, roll into the other.
There’s never an off switch. And what your brain is looking for is closure. Like, why do we have weddings? Why do we have funerals? It’s a way. To be able to come to that stage, like, okay, this is done completion. Now you can move on. And when you understand that concept that I need to accomplish something and stick with it until there’s a new muscle memory or neural pathway, which we talk about.
So you, it’s a new way of thinking. It’s gonna feel a little hard at first, but once you’ve intentionally driven that path and it becomes mass muscle memory, you don’t have to think. I love this concept of understanding, happiness, like we’ve, read the book and seen the movie in pursuit of happiness, but here’s the thing, happiness.
There’s a difference between happiness and joy. Happiness is relied on happenings circumstances out of your control. If you say I’m only gonna be happy when I’m making million dollars. There’s a lot of factors that go into that, that perhaps are out of your control. And if you are basing your happiness on an event or a circumstance or a bank balance, you’re pretty much just setting yourself up for disappointment because here’s the thing.
If you can rather switch your idea of success from having a sense of joy, what joy is, is the choice you make in that moment. To be happy and to find the good in any situation that it doesn’t matter. The circumstances, whether you are rich or poor, thin, or fat, wherever you are in life.
The, the choice of joy is an act of thing where happiness is like almost waiting for life to happen to you. Cuz happiness. Happiness no one can control other people. We can’t control outside circumstances. So even from an intrinsic perspective, if you can start to think of what will bring me joy. Even down to the little things like, and my husband and I have this saying, I dunno if you guys ever watched the, the Netflix show with Maria condo, where she goes through people’s houses and helps them tardy and declutter.
And she says, if it don’t spark joy, let it go. And I was like, that’s a brilliant concept. If it doesn’t spark joy and it doesn’t bring happiness to you, whether now in the future, why are we doing this? And it makes you start to think and value time, resources, relationships. Certain things and down to a practical level, like I say to my husband doing the housework does not spark joy.
So, but I would rather work a little few, a few extra hours, earn a bit more money and pay for someone else. Who’s better, cheaper and faster at cleaning my house and buy back my time to be able to do the things they do. Spark joy. Now I not to say that, we have to get out of chores and there’s certain things in life we have to do, whether we like it or.
But again, it’s like when you’re making choices, if you are forcing yourself through a certain thing or maybe doing a job or picking, working with clients, within you that there’s, it doesn’t feel right. That your sense of joy is off. That’s a really important marker for you to sort of dig in and ask yourself the question.
If it doesn’t spark joy me, what is the value in me doing this or making this. Now on the flip side, I must actually say, as a caveat, we can’t go through life expecting everything to be sunshine, lollipops and rainbows. Cuz that’s not reality, right? There is joy. Even in the hard things now people will be like, what do you mean?
Like, just think about this for a moment. When you go to the gym, are you feeling super excited, it joyful for your personal trainer to put you through all the hard work and the sweet and the tears and it’s gonna be so painful. No, we know intentionally that you’re making this choice because it outweighs the pain.
So we know the whole, no pain, no game thing is actually true that sometimes even though it doesn’t bring you joy in the moment, the greater joy from being fit and being more healthy is far more valuable than the current happiness. So it’s trading, today’s fleeting happiness for tomorrow’s eternal joy.
The whole concept that we talk about celebrating the wins and deciding how your day is gonna be is that you set your own standard of measurement for the day. But let me just classify this. So I know women are intentionally bad at this. We are great at making these long list and we are very good at beating ourselves up when we don’t accomplish those things.
But how you flip that? I have a, I have a three prong approach and I call this the triple D strategy. I know it’s not a bra size, it’s a task size. Okay. And the three DS are ditch delegate and do so. Anything that I decide I wanna do in my life is that I have a list of prioritizing where this is gonna go.
And most of the time for us, those who love to be busy, cuz we feel like we are accomplishing things by being busy, but being busy in proactivity are two different. What I like to do is intentionally put my to-do list in these certain buckets. Like the thing that I want to do is it really need to be done today.
And if not, it can go in the ditch pile. Now is the thing that I need to be done. Can someone else do it maybe cheaper, quicker, faster. Like I alluded to the fact that I do not clean my house. I have, I’d rather hire someone who comes and does it for me at a much better level than I would cuz I would just be like, okay, get this done.
And then the stuff that I know that only I can do that is. My gifts and skills and talents. My area of genius for my zone of genius that I know I need to intent. Put my energy in is far more valuable. And the way you get to this is to understand your value. And this is a whole concept we can be talking hours on, but really how do you value yourself and your time?
Like, what is your time worth, everything that you choose to do in your life? Like, whether it’s am I gonna even waste the one minute of getting angry on the road in the car because of the guy who cut me off, am I gonna disallow my emotions and my whole system to be out of whack where I could just do, do, be like Elsa and let it go!
And just. Best you have a good day. These are the micro decisions we make that either set us up for success or failure for us to feel at the end of the day. Wow. I accomplished this or, yeah, I got a load of dishes done, or I actually got through the filing and did my taxes, or I took the dog for a walk or I actually took a nap.
Like these are all wins. Doesn’t matter what it doesn’t have to be rocket. This isn’t you aren’t being graded. This isn’t school where you get a, a grade for having done all the things or having not done all things, you decide the level of importance and, and you, you give it the value proposition for each thing.
So I know it’s not worth my time doing certain tasks either. It’s not, not even needs to be in my purview. I just need to like, delete it off the task. Like learn Spanish in three months. Yeah. Not gonna happen. So let’s just take that off and be kind to myself. Right. Where other things that are maybe urgent, but are important, but not urgent that I could perhaps deal with.
Maybe later you can start to prioritize. And that gives your brain a sense of being able of peace and accomplishment that even though say you have 10 things swelling in your head, if you can put them in those buckets, you can say to your brain it’s okay. I know you’re freaking out about the bucket over here, but that’s not what we gonna waste our time on today.
Just put it out of your mind. We just need to put our energy. All we have time for today. Is this one task that I would rather complete that task. Give myself that sense of accomplishment because what you do, it’s like your brain is like hard drive space. If you’ve used your computer too much.
And then the startup just starts to slow things down and the trash hasn’t been emptied, everything starts to slow down. So by you getting those actually finishing the tasks instead of having 10 unfinished tasks, you’d rather do one. You erase that from your, your mind’s memory. You clear up that database space and now you’ve got space for more creative thinking.
Cause so many of us have been, especially with the way the world has been, has put us into this fear-based reaction mode. Everything is Ugh, crisis. Everything is stressful and the media does this intentionally. So that’s why you’ve gotta filter your, inputs where you’re getting your Intel from that I don’t want to live on a, on adrenaline and cortisol.
It’s not good for your body. It’s not good for your system. It actually ages you super. So, if you are constantly being like pinged and you see something and you free have a freak out, you’re wasting mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual energy. So I’ve become a lot more strict about how I spend my time and where I give my emotional energy to.
And when you realize , that one thing in life, we cannot get back. It’s time. We can always make more money. We can always create more things, but we can never get that time back that if we value our time and how we spending our. We make everything so much more valuable. And then you realize you start to get a lot more picky about how you’re gonna spend your time.
And then when you realize you’re in the driver’s seat, you become so much more confident, so much more self-assured. And then this is where part of my training that I always say you can accomplish and overcome any challenge, no matter how hard, because you have already decided to become the boss of your.
And this is really the key to why rewiring and taking those, those intentional. To choose how you wanna think, even in the first 10 seconds of your day, guess to direct the rest of your day. So you are the director of your own ship. You ask my family, I’m always ready to rent about how the lack of, of, of this kind of content is lacking in schools.
Now I have kids in, I’ve had kids in different , all through all the levels of school. And what I definitely, I have said throughout the years is, is what we lack is teaching our kids how to think. We have been taught. And the school system has really trained them to be little cheap. It’s taught them how to be, to be followers and not necessarily leading their own path.
And what I’m saying is I’m not talking about instilling mayhem in the classroom. I’m almost like that sort of Socratic view view of thinking like I’m half Greek. So my dad always talked about the Socratic method about always questioning, like asking questions and that’s how you. So, if it were up to me, I would make sure number one, that the kids are in school year round.
This whole school system of being off three months is not good for the brain cuz the brain’s got to mush. Second of all, I would make sure that even from kindergarten, that kids are taught the Socratic method of questioning and asking like, why is the sky blue? Well, let’s investigate what, what that means.
Like, how do bees wings fly so fast instead of just here are facts and you need to just remember. What the school system has done is taught people how to memorize facts, but there has been no I implication of how do you put this into practice? So we’ve become sheep. What I call sheep, pull, we just learn the facts and we split them out, but we don’t know how to put the tools we learn into practical, practical, everyday life.
So if we can teach our kids how to. How to ask questions. So they learn because when you are in that creative, Ooh, what does that mean? Like, how is that working you then are in, in a position of you looking for, and kids are, their minds are built this way. They are curious, so we can build in curiosity in the classroom.
I think we would have a completely different workload, the school systems, the, the, the college systems would have to cater for kids and allowing. To choose their own path. Cause how many? I mean, people do when you leave school are like, I don’t know what to do with my life because they’ve been told what to do for the first, all 12 years of schooling and they’ve never been taught to think about what’s really good about them.
And only after they graduate, they start asking the questions. Well, what’s my personality type and what are my skills and what am I naturally good at? Like, no. Hello. We should have told you this when you were five. Instead of putting everybody in the same box in this, in generalized generalization of education, I mean, especially if we are introducing, like we introduce math and science, like this should be part of our everyday curriculum is teaching our kids how to think.
And this is where I feel like the world has got it about the whole concept of what you feel, feel confident, feel motivated. That is really, we’ve got that backwards because we don’t wait for the feeling. The feeling comes from the action. And even in psychology, we talk about it as your feelings are the last thing to, to catch up your, you first decide and make the choice in your mind.
You then step out and take the action. And then you wait to feel confident or you wait to feel that sense of accomplishment having done the thing. And I think once we can make that shift and realize it doesn’t matter how I feel. I know this choice I’m making today is gonna bring the feelings of success and motivation and happiness and joy having done the thing and in waiting for motivation to come around is like waiting for like it to rain in the middle of summer.
Like you’re gonna stand up and stare at the sky for as long as you possibly can. It just ain’t happening. So, and I think it all comes back to, what do you want with your life? How do you want to think and feel you get to. You get to decide how your day turns out by being intentional with how, first of all, you start your first 10 seconds in the morning, what actions you take for the rest of the day to back up those choices.
And then at the end of the day, as mama always said, you gotta counter blessings, you gotta celebrate the wins and go back and think, wow, I did a great thing today. I might not have done 10, but I did the one thing and I’m gonna sit here and celebrate and be proud of myself. For that sense of accomplishment.
And that is how you build a muscle memory. That is how you re rewire your brain. And that is how you change your life by changing your mind.
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